Is your life as good as it gets?
So listen, the title of this post is “Is This As Good As It Gets?”
You know, or the other question, what if? Oh my gosh, what if it is? Would you be okay right now?
Would you be okay if something happened, God forbid, and you had to be … nothing could change? Are you missing out on something because you worried too much about security or you’re worried.
Well, you know what, I believe in dreams, I believe in hope, I believe in love, I believe in living life to the fullest, and I also believe in becoming the absolute best that you can.
Listen in to my video below where I explain more…
Do you have the power to change?
So is this as good as it gets, I wanted people to … I want you to kind of sit in that for a second and say, is it? And this happened to me a few years ago, separated from my husband, and you know what, I thought he was the love of my life. Well, he was the love of my life. I thought it was going to last forever. I thought that … I mean, we had big dreams, we had big plans.
We moved far away and then it all crumbled. I thought to myself, “Wow. Is this it? Is this where I’m at? I’m in my 50’s, and no husband, and I’ve got my bonus baby at home, two additional children because we have grandchildren, and a cat and a dog, and this is it? I’m alone? Is this as good as it gets?”
That was kind of a hard pill to swallow for a little while because I was like it took me a bit. I woke up, and I said, “You know what? This is not as good as it gets. I have complete control over everything that happens in my life.” I such remember that. I knew that when … but when I think sometimes when we’re going through an emotional trauma because that’s what it is.
Divorce and separation is an emotional trauma when you’re going through something like that, it’s really kind of hard to see outside of you, right?
But when you can get back to focus, and get back to yourself, and you say, “I am not going to let what happened to me be my story. I refuse to let what happened to me be my story. So I need to make sure that I don’t ever ask the question …” This is what you’re saying to you, right? Anybody’s who’s been through trauma … “I’ve got to make sure that if I’m going to answer that question, is this as good as it gets, then I want that answer to be yes, and I’m perfectly good with that. I’m happy with this. I made this. I created all of this.”
Then the other scenario is what if? Get to the end of your life and you say, “But what if?” You know, I was writing with a friend the other couple weeks ago, and I said, “Well, are you happy?” And he said, “Well, yeah.” I said, “Are you happy with what you’re doing?” He said, “I am.”
I said, “Well that’s great, as long as you don’t meet the person that you could have been on your deathbed.” He was like, “Whoa.” But that is the point. Examine where you are. If you have these questions for yourself, is this as good as it gets, that answer should be yes, yeah I did it, I made that happen, whatever it is for you. I just want to encourage you to completely live in your truth, your purpose, your life, whatever that means for you.
The question of what if, please do not let that answer or that question throw you off. If it does, I really, really want to encourage you to say to yourself, “If I’m answering the question, what if? What if I did that? What if I took that trip to Greece that my friends went on and asked me to go, and I said I couldn’t go because I didn’t think that I had the money to go? Or what if I do not take my children on a … go on the field trip with them?”
Whatever, anything, could be small, could be big, but every once in a while, ask yourself the question, is this as good as it gets. Make sure you’re happy with that answer, and then certainly do not live in the idea that what if. What if I would have done that? That’s just sad. Sorry, it’s sad, and I don’t want you to be sad. I want you to realize that you are in control of every single thing that happens in your life.
You know, one of the most common misconceptions I think of humankind is that they believe that it’s their environment and their circumstance that makes them who they are, what they are. When in fact, every single person has within them the ability to make changes and to get beyond anything that might have been put in front of them or that they might have been born into. That’s just a fact.
We are all born with the same stuff. If we are born into different circumstances, well you know, you still have the ability … it may be a little harder … but you have the ability to see that goodness inside of you and to recognize that you are in control of everything you do in your life.
It’s something we as parents try to teach our children, right? So we want to … I just want to encourage you to spend some time, ask yourself those questions, and if the answers … if you do not like the answers, then maybe it’s time to take a listen to … not take a listen, take a look at why, evaluate why for yourself. Why do you not like the answer is this as good as it gets. If the answer is oh my gosh, I do not want this to be … Take control. Take control.
I will tell you that here I am on a Friday night. That is a part of me that kind of says, “All right, so here I am on a Friday night, doing a live video about personal development and professional development.” It’s like hmm. But you know what, there’s no place I’d rather be. I would so much rather be doing this and helping to spread the message about how good you can have it or what you could be doing with yourself or for yourself, than probably anything in the world, next to my family, of course.
So I felt sorry for myself for a hot minute, and then I was like, “All right, no. I can’t feel sorry for myself. I like what I do. I love what I do.” And again, I was just passing time.
So listen, please know that you have the power within you to make any change that you want to change.
You can do anything in this world that you want to, and I mean that. It took me a long time, a long time to learn that we have such magnificent control if we understand our mind. If you have any questions for me, send me a message using the contact form or just comment below. Ask me a question. I’d be happy to answer.
I just want you to be good in thought and spirit and mind and all that so go ahead and make your life as good as it gets!