Are You Achieving Goals you have set for yourself?
Are you achieving goals you have actually set out to do? An why do you think many people don’t?
I mean, how many New Years Eve resolutions do you think actually were achieved earlier this year? I would venture to say less than probably ten percent. I don’t know if there’s an actual figure out there somewhere, but that’s what I would think, it’s not very many people. But why is that?
Why would somebody set a goal to achieve then not accomplish it?
Well, I’d like to share that, in my opinion, one of the reasons is that when we set goals we do not always identify the actions necessary in order to change our behavior to help us to achieving your goals, because sometimes when we set a new goal it’s not followed up with, nor is the foundation laid in order for somebody to say, “Okay, what new habits do I need to develop? And what can I do to make sure that I get this done? A lot of times it’s like, “I’m going to lose 30 pounds.” How are you going to lose 30 pounds? What new habits are you going to develop to lose the 30 pounds? How?
The how must accompany the goal. It just has to.
Achieving Goals with New Habits
So, I think that if you do any sort of research on it, or if you’ve heard any conversation about it, most often these big lofty goals, the only time that they are achieved is if you change certain behaviors and create new habits that will cause you to think differently, therefore act differently and create that different result. So, the ability to achieving goals is that … Anybody can accomplish anything.
Please do not get me wrong. Anyone can accomplish anything that they set out to do, but what I’m saying is that the reason the majority of people do not achieve their goals, especially the big life changing goals, is because they have not identified the behaviors that they need to have change. And if they have, sometimes they do, somethings they do, don’t get me wrong, the other thing is that even if they identified the behaviors, sometimes the reason they don’t is they get afraid.
They reach a certain point in their journey to their goal where they say, “Hmm … I don’t know if I can do this.” Or they just automatically shift back into their normalality. It’s a lot easier to stay in bed instead of getting up that 30 minutes earlier to go the gym, as an example. It’s a lot easier to go back to what we know. What do we call that? The comfort zone. So, a lot of times the people, “the people,” I’m talking like it’s a different species or something, but a lot of times people who set goals aren’t giving themselves enough latitude in so far as what they want to accomplish, and they’re not giving themselves enough of the tools.
I’m a firm believer that you’ve got to have the right tools for the task. So, I want to encourage you, if you are in the process, or if you are a goal setter, or if you want to start achieving goals, do the work necessary to establish your foundation on what exactly will help you accomplish these goals, and how do you get into forming new habits.
Let me give you an example. One of my goals this year was to drink water, and I decided that the only way that I could increase that, because I don’t like water, I don’t like plain water, so I chose to add a good nutritional supplement to my water that tasted good. Now, what did that do? That set me up for success right away, because I removed the barrier of not liking plain water by adding something that was good tasting and good for me. So that right there, I changed what I had been doing before, which allowed me to have a better likelihood of success in my new goal of drinking my water weight, half my water weight in ounces everyday.
Then, I needed a tracker. I needed something to kind of figure out, am I getting the amount of water that I say I’m going to get, or that I need? Am I getting that? So I initially figured out, I just looked at my water bottle and I was like, “I need to drink five of these a day.” So in my head I had to, initially I actually didn’t do it in my head, but initially I kept track of it by putting a counter on my island. Now, that island sat there, and I know I needed five, so I simply put a check mark every day until the habit was developed and I was able to recognize that I am getting five of my water bottles every day, and that means I’m accomplishing my water goals.
Now, that habit was formed after 30 days or so, probably sooner ’cause I found that I really liked it. I found that I love the benefits of getting the hydration, so what happened after that is it became my new normal. I was able to accomplish a goal because I set the goal and I put the pieces in place that would allow me to accomplish that. I had to override my not liking plain water. I had to figure something out for that, I had to figure a tracking mechanism, and that allowed me, just like … I’m telling you, this is how you do anything. Any new goal, any goal that you want to have, any new habit that you want to create, give yourself the latitude, give yourself room, look at your own situation, what you like, what don’t you like, and then be able to say, “Okay, how exactly can I accomplish that? How can I do that?” So as I stated, in my case, I don’t like plain water, I had to add something good and nutritious to the water, I had to put a counter on my water so that I knew when I was getting it, and soon that developed into a habit, and that’s how we start achieving goals.
Any goal you want to accomplish can start just like that. Decide that you want to do it, figure out what you might need to help you along with it, and then take the daily action necessary to make that into a new habit, and those habits are what will set you up for succeeding in those goals.
Thank you so much for reading this post, and I just want to let you know that I have a new confidence course coming up which will be called The Bold Confidence Club. Oh my gosh, I’m so excited about it. I just listened to it all again today, and it is less than 30 minutes of actual audio, and I am super-duper excited about it because, well, you know, there was a time when I needed that big time, actually, and it wasn’t that long ago.
But if you’re interested, if you want to know more about the bold confidence course, be sure to contact me so I can put you on the waiting list. We’re wrapping up the final PDFs, the assignments, to get you going on the right track, because this is what I know, everything that anyone ever sets out to do, one of the biggest things that holds people back is their lack of confidence.
They may not understand that right away, but if you’re not achieving the goals that you want to, or if you’re not doing everything that you wanted to do if your life, I want you to take a good honest assessment and say, “Do I have enough self confidence, and is my self esteem enough so that I can accomplish these goals, so I can set out and do these things?”
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You are awesome. You are amazing. You are beautiful. I know that, and I want you to know that about you too!
To YOUR Success,
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